The most common cause is because many people have a past trauma and also applies if you do not have stable parents.
She and the immediate family members around it make up what love means to you.
That does not mean that your parents did not mean well with you, but it has to do with the fact that both parents or 1 of the 2 could not emotionally connect with the child.
Many are also not aware of this because they think; They are just who they are.
As a child, there is a feeling of rejection from a parent.
The child wants attention and the parent can’t give it or doesn’t know how to give it?
The child continues to ask for attention, but does not receive the correct signals, so that the child develops a manipulative attitude, so that it still receives some form of attention.
That can be positive attention and also negative attention.
The child will adopt an attitude in which it receives some form of attention from the parents
The child may start to please, cry, laugh, joke, kick, be wild, be overly sweet or always have a problem that can also manifest itself in ailments or illnesses just to get that conscious or unconscious attention and that love that it so badly needs.
If the parents still do not understand and are not aware that they are in a vicious circle and do not give the right attention, then the child will develop an attraction that will attract a partner in the future in which one of the parents is central and want to receive that love from their partner that they missed with the parent.
If a child is rejected a lot, as an adult, it also attracts a partner who rejects them.
If there has been little time for the child, you as an adult also attract a partner who has little time for you.
If you have not received love, you will also get a partner who finds it difficult to give love or who has fear of commitment and struggles with the same problem, but the other way around, you have separation anxiety and the other has fear of commitment.
If you have been treated narcissistically or if they have hurt you, you will also attract a partner.
If you have narcissistic traits yourself, you attract a submissive person who wants to be treated that way, that person doesn’t even realize that they want to be treated that way, but the energies suck this attraction towards each other.
I can tell you why?
The focus of your thought forces is on what you DO NOT have or CANNOT get.
Fear of loss and fear of the future that life will not give you what you wish for.
Thinking you can change someone for some reason just to feel a little bit of love.
It’s about that love that you want to feel completely but don’t get and why you don’t get it has to do with the manipulation that you developed as a child.
Feeling safe in this manipulation that you will get what you want at that moment but it is not a permanent situation because you are already prepared for the disappointment.
It slips out of your hands and you have no control over it.
Your FOCUS is the pull of the situation.
If you do not know this and do not grow spiritually through insights and remain stubborn you will experience it again and again because it is a blind spot for you.
The separation anxiety and attachment fear develop further from childhood to teenager, first boyfriend / girlfriend, marriage etc..
Spiritual growth gives insights, gives love and teaches you to stay with yourself so that you can develop stability.
I could write about this for hours…
In our next spiritual news I’m going to tell you more about commitment anxiety and separation anxiety
I hope this spiritual news has given you a little more insight!
If you want to know more about this or if you need insight into how you can break through these patterns, please contact us and we will find the right approach that suits you.
Much love, strength and light,
Anika and Michele
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