Here is a list of 11 things that, if you give up, will make your life easier and happier. We hold onto so many things that cause pain, stress, and suffering – and instead of making ourselves stress free and happy, we hold onto them. Starting today, give up on all of these things that are no longer useful and let’s embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up the need to always be right
With some it goes so far that it breaks relationships in any form just to be right.
Whenever you feel like you have to fight “great” need over who is right, ask yourself this question, “Would I rather be right or do I want to be kind?” Wayne Dyer- Doesn’t matter? Is your ego that big?
2. Don’t blame anyone
Stop blaming others for what you have or don’t have, what you feel or don’t feel. Do not give your power to someone else, take responsibility for your life and take it in your own hands.
3. Stop talking to yourself in a self-destructive way
Oh no! How many people harm themselves with their negative, harmful and constantly self-destructive attitudes? Don’t believe everything your mind tells you, especially if it’s negative or self-destructive.
“The mind is a wonderful instrument when used well.
If used incorrectly, it becomes very destructive. “
Eckhart Tolle
4. Let go of your limiting beliefs
About what you can and cannot do, what is possible and what is impossible.
“A belief is not an idea of the mind,
“it’s an idea that holds the mind in check
Elly Roselle
5. Stop complaining
Stop complaining about all of these things, people, situations, and events that make you unhappy, sad, and depressed. No one can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or unhappy unless you let it be. There is no such situation unless you allow it. It’s not the situation that arouses these feelings, but how you look at it. Don’t underestimate the power of positive thinking.
6. Stop impressing others
Stop trying to be what you are not so that others will like you. So do not worry. When you stop putting so much effort into being who you are not, when you take off all your masks, when you accept and hug your true self, you will find yourself attracting loved ones with ease .
7. Give up your resistance to change
Change is good. Change helps you get from A to B. Change helps you improve your life and the lives of those around you. Follow your luck, embrace change – don’t defend yourself against it.
“Follow your luck and the universe will open doors for you where there were walls” Joseph Campbell
8. Let go of your fears
Fear is an illusion, it doesn’t exist, you create it yourself. Everything is in your head. Customize the inside and the outside will follow.
“The only thing we have to be afraid of is fear itself.”
Franklin D. Roosevelt
9. Let go of the past
I know. It’s tough. Especially when the past looked so much better than the present and the future is scary, you need to acknowledge that the present is all you have now and will always have. The past that you long for, the past that you dream of, you ignored it when the present was there. Don’t fool yourself any longer. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all, life is a journey, not a destination. Make a clear view of the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the present.
10. Let go of attachments
This is very difficult for most of us to understand, but not impossible. You will get better at it over time. The moment you break away from all things (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them, because love and attachment have nothing to do with each other, attachment comes from fear and love … true love is pure, kind and selfless, true love is not fear, and therefore love and attachment cannot coexist) a great peace comes over you, you become tolerant, kind and composed. You then come to the point where you can understand everything with no effort. A state beyond words.
11. Stop living your life according to other people’s expectations
Far too many people lead lives that are not their own. They live the way others think it is right for them, they live the way their parents or friends, enemies and teachers, the government and the media think it is best for them. They don’t listen to their inner voice. They are so busy making everyone happy, fulfilling others’ expectations that they lose control of their own lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need … and finally they forget themselves. You only have one life – this life, you have to live it, own it and most of all do not depend on other people’s opinions of let yourself be diverted from your path.
Lot’s of Love,
Anika & Michéle Theunisz